How to Overcome A Tug-O-War Situation

As I walked into the small cubicle area, I chuckled. Yes, this was the demonic, absurdly rude and unhelpful immigration officer. This was the same lady that I saw spew craziness at another individual a few months earlier and told him to get out. Boy, was I in for a monster. I Betrayed Myself --...

The Story of My Student’s Anti-Depressants & How Much Reaction Won

That's right. Remember the time my student turned to anti-depressants? After meeting her at the base of my condo, I felt that there was a "aura" of disparity that was surrounding her. What she normally used to be and what she was at that moment. After going up the elevator, she had a frown on...

When You Realize You Have An Indomitable Will….

I went to my mother's Facebook page to check on her health and well-being recently.  After the 2013 fallout, my mother and I haven't spoken on video or by voice in half-a-decade.  Regrets? Absolutely not.  It takes two to tango.  However, the health of my mother is always important. Her first post was of my...

Stephen Covey’s Speed of Trust: Season 4 – Episode 3 – A Summary of Taxes & Dividends

The Trust Tax.  Yes, sometimes there are hidden, ugly variables in that, too. It's very difficult to trust people who work for different companies, such as those exploitative companies that tell you, "hey! You can stay at our beautiful condominium for cheap tonight with no extra costs!" If you guys didn't hear the story about...

Season 1: Episode 5 – Book Review – Aggressive & Invincible Mask

“Imagine the moments just before a cage fight. The cheering crowd. The threatening opponent in the corner, flexing, shadow-boxing, bouncing rhythmically on the balls of his feet, ready for someone to ring the bell so he can pounce. The highlight reel of his past victories plays on the jumbo-tron—man after man hitting the canvas or...

Masks of Masculinity: Season 1: Episode 2 – What Can You Do Right Now To Remove The Alpha Mask

“The first step to shedding this mask is, in a way, just embracing that fact. Just give yourself enough gut-check moments about the kind of behavior you see around you. It isn’t enough to see it; you’ve got to see it and then have a reaction that’s more critical than complimentary.” - Lewis Howes Honestly,...

Aggressive Mask: Part II

“Unaddressed anger is the glue that keeps the Aggressive Mask stuck in place, starting very early and lasting, in many cases, for decades. There is research on this, and it testifies to how much young boys, in particular, are soaked in anger. For many of them, anger is the only emotion that is “acceptable” to...

Stoic Mask: Part II – What Can You Do Right Now?

“Men lag behind this shift because they are still learning how to talk openly with their partners and connect honestly with other men. We know what to do. We just don’t know how to do it. And until that changes, where does that leave us? That’s right. It leaves us alone.” Excerpt From: Lewis Howes....

How To Criticize — And Not Be Hated For It

Is it possible? Perhaps! “Charles Schwab was passing though one of his steel mills one day at noon when he came across some of his employees smoking. Immediately above their heads was a sign that said “No Smoking.” Did Schwab point to the sign and say, “Can’t you read?” Oh, no not Schwab. He walked...

If You Do This, You Will Never Worry About Ingratitude

Dogs.  They are the absolute best four-legged animals of society.  Just recently there was a dog running out on the main road, happily.  I've never seen a dog showing such extraordinary enthusiasm - let alone a homeless one.  The way it galloped, not ran....but galloped on the sidewalk in sheer celebration for whatever it may...