Oh, yes! How can I become a better boyfriend!
I can’t. Lol. I’m single and I’ll remain this way for a very long-time. However, looking back on my past relationships, there were some areas of improvement.
This is what relationships are about. Jack Canfield would ask his wife “how did I do today on a scale 1-10?” She would give him a number and he would then ask, “how can I improve?”
However, that’s a bad technique because you will always aim for perfection….but no one is perfect, right? Although asking for feedback in very important, you might develop the “everything I do is still not enough” attitude towards someone.
Another great technique I would implore to all of you would be what Darren Hardy does. He actually sets an alarm for Friday at 6pm and then it goes off 48 hours later. During these hours, he dedicates it entirely to his family. That’s something that everyone is more than capable of doing, regardless of the workload.
I’m more sided with the Vishen Lakhiani quote. He said, “there’s a bullshit myth that life revolves around hardwork and hustling. I think this is dangerous as hell to accept because it’s crushing families and lives all around the globe.”
Yeah, I’m not with the Gary Vee bullshit. His book “crushing it” has toppled charts and helped me alot, but the majority of the things he says right now his so self-loathing and ignorant that I no longer follow him. Not that his 10 million followers would care, but I’ve graduated from Gary Vee for the simple fact that he’s too “work and money centered” whereas if people with marriages actually believe the shit that comes out of his mouth, their marriage will ultimately end.
For all of you out there who are in marriages/relationships…consider the following.
- Are we growing or are we dying? (JUST BE HONEST. Do you see yourself going anywhere? Or is it just the same s*** year after year? Are you fully content? Is this relationship you’re in holding you back from doing great things? Just ask yourself).
- What can I do differently? How can I be more loving, caring, and build more of an intimate relationship?
- What messes have I not cleaned up? What did I repeat all year that she didn’t like (habits) and what should I do away with?
- What two things did I do everyday for the other half without being told to do it?
Me, relationships are a foregone conclusion. I’m super content with my life right now, but maybe in the future someone will come about.
Ask yourself these questions and see what’s happening and where you can improve.